[nova1985]

My husband is a alcoholic and since June things have been terrible, I have left but come back because his dad died and promised things would change and he will get the help, he has not gone to the meetings as he promised and nothing has improved. He lost his job and now a few months away from most likely loosing the house.

[nova1985]

Another night of him being nasty, all because of rum, not had a night like this in weeks was hoping it was all over, even worse the argument happened in front of my kids, ???? I couldn’t help myself by snapping back but the look on my daughters face broke my heart. All I get when he has sobered up it i deserve it.

[nova1985]

I know these feelings all to well unfortunately. Moving out is the best thing to do for you and the baby.

[nova1985]

I am so sorry to read this. You deserve so much better. May I ask how far along you are In pregnancy, I had my second nearly a year ago and he had said some nasty stuff I felt ugly and worthless the whole time. Glad you have moved out, hopefully getting sacked will be a wake up call to start making changes. Do you have a support for you.

[nova1985]

I walked away for a week, not long ago, unfortunately in that time he found his dad dead, I came back as a support unit, his drinking got bad he ended up in hospital for the second time, he drank again the third hospital visit was his rock bottom, he is now getting professional help, still drinking but cutting down as he can’t stop completely has he will risk a fit. You need to focus on yourself especially while pregnant x

[nova1985]

Sorry you are dealing with this also, it’s not easy at all, and it feels the more you try and help the more they push you away.

[nova1985]

Thank you for responding, am sorry that you are going through this is not fair. My husband is in a program now and getting professional help, thankfully he has his wake up call. The rum has gone it’s been a week now, and die to 6 small bottles of beer in a 24 hr period. He is much better in himself and nicer.

[nova1985]

He has been cutting down a lot and hopefully will be on a at home detox programme

[nova1985]

Thank you, just feel miserable all the time and now people at work are noticing what makes it worse is he works at the same place but obviously has not been since the beginning of June

[nova1985]

Badly since 2020. I did leave in the beginning of June for a week, but he found his dad dead so I came back to help him. If things don’t start improving with the clinic I see him being sent to rehab, I’ll loose the house of that happens so I only work part time because of childcare

[nova1985]

I can always tell when he has had a drink cos his whole body language and personality changes for the worse. After this I left for a week cos he was saying nasty things. Still drinking but will be seeing a person at a alcoholic clinic soon

[nova1985]

*saying he is sleeping, sorry didn’t prove read. Btw my sister is not like that at all. He just wants to hurt me as much as possible.

[nova1985]

Out of hospital and straight back on the booze. ????

His been told next time he ends up in hospital he will just go right to rehab. The doctors said they have referred him to a a support group and could be 5 days before the contact, I said if you are struggling now reach out first.

[nova1985]

Oh no Sorry to hear that, any chance of him going AA? My husband is going to get tablets that stop the craving, think they are only available from certain organisations/ help groups

[nova1985]

Yes the pile ups, but won’t throw them away themselves. Unfortunately he ended up having another fit, currently in hospital, says he is definitely done this time.

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