Hi, thank you so much for replying. It has been so tough trying to navigate this relationship without having any references or support, so I’m grateful for this forum and especially for your correspondence.
I’ve approached this for over a year by blaming and harming myself, and now realise that although I have created so many scenarios in my head where I take responsibility and stay (“If I go, they might neglect their dog”, “They won’t cook for themself”, etc.) but I am no substitute for the right support, I have sacrificed enough.
Unfortunately, I have drained my savings (partially due to inadvertently funding this addiction, as I was told they didn’t have their half of the rent on a few occasions) but my family are supportive enough I feel I would be helped to find a fresh start if I told them (one immediate member knows, whom I trust). I’m just scared, and feel I am younger than I’d like to be in this position (I’m 22, my partner’s 8 years older) – Not that I can/should idealise an age, but my brain has been jumping through strange hoops throughout this.
Thank you again, and if I don’t update, your advice has been crucial to me and so reassuring to hear today.
