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Hi guys sorry for what you are all going through i am going through a similar thing. My husband is an addict and has been using crack for 7 years of our marriage. Its driven me insane all the lies deceit we have tried everything for him to stop. I have separated from him on 3 occasions foolishly taking him back with promises of change. The final straw was a rehab where he went recently and 6 weeks after rehab has relapsed. He doesn’t use every day he has binges which will go on a few days and cost 1000s of pounds. I work 2 jobs to pay all the bills as he won’t contribute in any way to the home. I refuse to lend him money etc now as its never repaid. Anyway after last weekend I told him not to come back. I then had a call early on the Monday morning crying threatening suicide obviously on a come down and realisation sinking in. His mum who thinks her son is now my problem kindly sent her son back to my home. I honestly feel now that he won’t change there is no love anymore and ive become more like his mother than his wife. I am going to join coda for codependency as I feel thats what I have become through being with him. I spend my life worrying and trying to stop his drug use. I’m so different from him have a good job a lovely family and I dont want to be with him anymore. Whenever I ask him to leave he gets angry and says he’s not going anywhere. Its taken its toll over me over the years and I now feel its time to make myself better as his illness has caused me to feel ill.