[penguin]

Thank you, it is so good to know there are people out there who know how this feels and I’m sorry to hear about your situation.

The overriding themes of people just wanting to help loved ones and having to stand and watch them constantly push the self destruct button and that of blind hope that one day things will improve is very apparent.

I’ve always been taught it’s wrong to live selfishly but I now have to, or else my mental health will be broken too.

It’s just all so very sad.

[penguin]

Hi Lucy,

I don’t have any answers or advice I’m afraid, I just wanted to say your post resonated with me. The arsehole mode is real and like you said, you can see it coming, like something shifts behind the eyes?

I’m at the end now with the verbal abuse, the draining cycle of loving sobriety followed by days lost due to alcohol and self destruction.

I hope you find a way to help him, as I continue to try to do for my husband. I just wanted you to know you’re not alone in this feeling.

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