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It is such a hard situation but unfortunately with coke comes a lot of lies. One thing I would say is you will know when you’re done and you’re ready to walk away and nobody can tell you to do so until you have that. For me it took a lot to accept that I was never going to be able change him or help him. My ex has already started sleeping with someone else so this has showed me I made the right decision even though it’s very painful. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first, I hope things get better for you whatever you decide

[pink321]

I am so sorry you have to deal with this, you’re going through what should be the most exciting time of your life! does your partner have somewhere to go where you can be assured he is with somebody? I decided I had to end things with my partner and it’s been 3 weeks now. I never ever thought I would be able to get to this point but I just knew after the sexting etc it was the last straw and I knew it was something I personally would never get over, it hurts me too much that he would do that after every thing else I have put up with for so many years. Luckily for me he is back with his parents so I know he sort of has somebody keeping an eye on him. Although they can’t recognise when he has used. I must say I can now go to sleep at night without worrying about him being sat downstairs doing coke, I get up and do things with my daughter as I know it’s just me and her now and I’m not waiting around for him to roll out of bed mid afternoon and to then get let down cos he’s fragile and angry anyway. I can’t say it’s easy going from having a family to being a single mum, it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions so far but I know I did all I could for him and sometimes that’s just not enough. All I can hope is that he continues to be there for our children. Please do believe in yourself though, it is so traumatic being with somebody going through addiction, you’re watching somebody you love turn into somebody you just don’t recognise anymore and it’s terribly sad and hard on you, you spend your life hoping and praying things get better. Try to focus on you and your little one, maybe one day he will be able to get clean and be around for you both but dont put your life on hold waiting my lovely xx

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