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<div>So sorry to hear you have been going through this really tricky situation.</div>
<div>I can relate- my husband is addicted to Alcohol and Ketamine and frequently snorts cocaine.</div>
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<div>Although I think it would be really helpful for his family to know, I worry about the pressure this puts on him if you tell them without his consent. I say this as,  whenever I have put pressure on my husband around telling people he doesn’t want to tell,  this has made him feel overwhelmingly stressed and anxious and has triggered him to drink and take more drugs and essentially take more risks.</div>
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<div>My husband has a really tricky relationship with his family so anything about them is a trigger- I’m not sure if this is the same for your husband? Christmas was also a very stressful time for us because of this.</div>
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<div>So what seemed to work with my husband the other day after an argument around the drink and drugs, I said to him “at the end of the day I can’t force you to stop, it’s your own decision, your own life, at the end of the day, I really love you and want to be with you but this is not what I signed up for, I want to support you but if I am to do that,  I am going to need you to meet me half-way for, the sake of our relationship and family. Do you want to meet me halfway? and if so is there anything you’d be willing to try e.g. telling family or rehab etc?</div>
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<div>This conversation ended well for us as and  I think it worked as I put the control back to him. He came up with the idea of getting in touch with his previous therapist to see if there were any other therapists he recommended.</div>
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<div>Previously he said he didn’t like people telling him what to do and that he felt out of control of his own life, so I think me saying “it’s up to you” helped him to feel in control of the situation. He’s still drinking but has been off the drugs for nearly 2 weeks now which is definitely an improvement.</div>
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<div>Anyway, let me know your thoughts and would really like to hear how the situation is going on your side.</div>
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