[pixie74]

Reaching out to you all as I’ve just had another blazing row with my son over his drug use. He has an unexpected day off from work and decided it was a lovely day to cycle to the local lake and smoke a joint in the middle of the day. He got high last night, and will no doubt be getting high tonight too. I’ve confronted him because again this a low point, smoking in the middle of the day. Of course I get the usual barrage of ‘you don’t get it’ ‘it’s no big deal’, ‘it’s like having a beer on holiday in the day’. To me it is a big deal. He smokes or takes edibles every day now, even though he says he doesn’t. I’m at my wits end and I know only you guys will get it!

[pixie74]

Last night things went downhill rapidly. We’d had a really good period with our son, months of improvement. Still smoking, but under our rules. We now realise this was to get access to his bigger/better room again, and as it was his 21st Birthday! We allowed him back into the attic room on the condition that there were no drugs, drug paraphernalia or anything to do with drugs kept up there. Within a week I’d found traces of edibles ????

Yesterday after cleaning his bathroom I found the wrappers, and Vape cartridges and CBD drinks. We tried to talk to him when he got home from work, he’s obviously taking edibles on the nights he isn’t smoking (conditions of moving upstairs), but he got defensive really quickly. He and my husband got into a row and told him to leave the house. So now he’s gone! Probably to one of his weed mates. Who knows where this will end now. ???????? I don’t know what to do. I should have not mentioned what I’d found.

[pixie74]

Last night things went downhill rapidly. We’d had a really good period with our son, months of improvement. Still smoking, but under our rules. We now realise this was to get access to his bigger/better room again, and as it was his 21st Birthday! We allowed him back into the attic room on the condition that there were no drugs, drug paraphernalia or anything to do with drugs kept up there. Within a week I’d found traces of edibles ????

Yesterday after cleaning his bathroom I found the wrappers, and Vape cartridges and CBD drinks. We tried to talk to him when he got home from work, he’s obviously taking edibles on the nights he isn’t smoking (conditions of moving upstairs), but he got defensive really quickly. He and my husband got into a row and told him to leave the house. So now he’s gone! Probably to one of his weed mates. Who knows where this will end now. ???????? I don’t know what to do. I should have not mentioned what I’d found.

[pixie74]

Hi Linda, and All.

I find it so frustrating that the Mental Health teams can only intervene if the person wants them too. Your son is not in a stable mindset to make that decision and as his Mom you know that’s what he needs. We are currently going through a similar situation with another family member, not drug related but they need MH support, but they are not receptive. If you’re son is a danger to his own life and others I think they can section him, but you really need to push for it, they don’t do it lightly,

The whole culture around weed is bad, young people want it to be like the USA and legal. That would only encourage my son, not deter him!

You and your son are in my thoughts. I really hope he gets the help he needs. X

[pixie74]

Thank You Tina. I’m really sorry that your husband has these issues. You’re incredible for sticking by him, it must be so hard living with it like this.

Last night my son smoked drugs in the house again, despite sending me a text an hour before telling me there was ‘nothing up stairs’. He’s always told lies but now we don’t know where the truth or lies begin and end. Our bedroom and landing stunk of the stuff, and so we confronted him. As he was stoned he was really amiable and apologetic, this morning is very different as we’ve told him to move rooms, to the small one downstairs.

He says he hasn’t got a problem, we don’t know what we’re talking about, everyone does it, in there homes and now he’ll be depressed and he hates us. ???? I’m worried he’s going to move out and live with other users, but we can’t keep enabling him.

[pixie74]

Thank you for your kind words of support. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions. One day I’m so angry with him for what he’s doing to himself I want to throw him out, the next I feel sad that he’s using Cannabis as an escape, and messing with his mental health and his future. Today I feel sad, but You’ve given me hope. Thank you. Jackie, I’m glad your son has found his way again, I wish him well for continued happiness . Xx

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