[plainjane]

You were very strong for doing that! I wish you the best of luck!

Does he have any wish to see his children?

[plainjane]

Wow, having told them, did it make it easier to go through with asking him to leave? How did he react to you telling his family?

[plainjane]

How long had his family known about his drug use when you kicked him out?

[plainjane]

Thank you that is very helpful, how did his family react? My husband is two very different people. And his family only knows the version that he portrays to them, which is not the person I am living with. I worry they will handle it badly as they are very naive and he will probably try to convince them that I am lying, and I can see that thry would rather want to believe that than facing the facts.

I think you must have been very brave asking him to leave. Did he just pick up his stuff then and leave? I am slightly scared of my hubby’s reaction if I ask him to leave. I think he would try to undermine me in some way, he does that when he doesn’t get his way.

[plainjane]

Just wanted to say I feel for you, that is an awful situation to be in. Perhaps try and take a step back, does he still live at home? Is he doing it in your home?

[plainjane]

Also just want to say I am really sorry to hear that happen to you, that must have been awful.

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How did your mother react? How did it effect your relationship with her?

[plainjane]

I know what you mean, but if you feel that you have little support around you having children does not make the situation easier. Though general children/or no children breaking away from a relationship is harder is harder without support(my personal opinion). Does anyone have any experience good or bad with any charities or similar organsations as a form of support?

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I feel the same and I will be following this tread. Do you have children? I do and for me that makes it so much harder knowing what to do. Are there any charities that people would reccomend for people that don’t have a big network of family/friends?

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By the way I would be interested to hear about any stay at home parent who decided to split over drug or alcohol use. How did you go about it. I used to love the fact that my hubby earned a comfertable living so that I could stay at home with our children, but right now I feel it is a curse.

[plainjane]

Thank you for the encouraging words! I will deffinatly read through your story, it is helful to know I am not the only one going through this!

[plainjane]

Me too, I am in the same boat, with a husband who us a cocaine user, the lonleyness is devastating. I am glad I found this forum.

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I don’t know what he would chose to be honest, I feel like it is so damaging to our relationship that I have to act like a cop/headmistress, it makes me so angry with him. I do know that I can not come with empty treaths that I need to do my homework. And I also need to work on myself to be strong enough to follow through if I need to give him an ultimatum.

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It is really hard knowing how to ho about things, I want to put my foot down, but I am a stay at home mum with no family support near by. I am a bit at a loss on how to go about it. I feel like I need to go back to work so I can become financually independent again, but I am worried about what to do if things escalates before I hsve managed to become financially independent again. I want what is best for my children and right now I feel like I am surrended by fog and I can’t see what the best action would be.

[plainjane]

Thank you! I find it very hard knowing what to do next and how to be the best mum I can be for my children whilst dealing with this crap! I know for sure I do not want it in the house, or want him high in the house or to be on a come down whilst we are around.

But when you suspect someone is high and are crossing your boundaries but you are not sure, how do you go about confronting them? I am feeling so confused on what to do to.

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