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Reading the posts has helped me realise that I’m not isolated in this. I’ve felt very lonely over the past few weeks not talking to anyone about what is going on. I think the relapse from my partner has made me face the fact this is an addiction not a ‘blip’ which is what I told myself the first time.
Thank you for the supportive words. My partner is now seeking support and actively attending CA meetings but as you said the fear and mistrust lingers. I’m so conscious of not doing anything that might enable him further. I’m trying not to analyse everything but it’s tricky as I feel like ‘how did I not see’.
I have made it clear to my partner their debt is theirs to payback and at the moment he’s moved into the spare room. I’m going to attend a family support meeting this eve to try and get some perspective
Thank you for the supportive words. My partner is now seeking support and actively attending CA meetings but as you said the fear and mistrust lingers. I’m so conscious of not doing anything that might enable him further. I’m trying not to analyse everything but it’s tricky as I feel like ‘how did I not see’.
I have made it clear to my partner their debt is theirs to payback and at the moment he’s moved into the spare room. I’m going to attend a family support meeting this eve to try and get some perspective
It’s so overwhelming I go from being really angry to stunned silence as I just don’t know where to turn for help. I’m trying hard to keep family life going for my children but inside I’m reaching breaking point.
Hi. I have experienced a lot of similar things that have been mentioned.
I’ve been married for 11years. About 4 years my partner used coke at a pub when offered by a friend. Over those years he became very distant. I thought he was suffering with depression as a result of his mother passing a few years prior. I encouraged him to get help and persuaded him to visit a counsellor. He reluctantly agreed but then stopped then one day I came home from work to find him high and drunk and he confessed and told me he had wracked up 20k worth of debt. He told me he was coming clean and wanted to stop and I thought over the past year he had and I saw that he had paid back money he had used but two weeks ago I discovered he was using again in fact that he had never stopped. Initially I think I went into shock then this past few weeks I felt pure rage. He has started visiting local support groups but I don’t even know how or if I can ever believe him again.