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Definitely do as I don’t want to give you the wrong advice. You’ve been dealing with this for so much longer. I just know we shouldn’t cover anything up as I think that’s enabling them. It’s not fair that you’re dealing with it on your own with no support from friends or family. I’m happy to chat on here but if you ring maybe Drinkaware they can give websites numbers of people that can help. It’s the same for me we go out and I say please don’t drink loads and everything thinks I’m just being unfair and to leave him alone, but they don’t have to deal with the things that you and I do 🙁
It’s so hard isn’t it. I wish I could advise you what to do. I have tried to get my partner to stop drinking but doing it in a positive way saying drink is stopping us both from having the life we want. He lasted two weeks and complained about not drinking most days. Then went back to drinking even more. I think they have to make the decision and admit they have a problem and want to change. I’ve read a few things that say as their spouse you have to look after yourself. It helps speaking to someone maybe getting support for yourself that might help you make a decision about what you want to do?
Hi I can completely relate. My partner and I have struggled the past 2.5 years as his drinking has just got worse. He also changes when he gets really drunk and has been verbally aggressive and spiteful. He changes completely. Some days he drinks 4 cans of beers other 18. I worry that he will make himself really poorly. This all stemmed from his dad dying. He has turned into such an awful person when he drinks and he was horrible to my 12 year old Niece on Christmas Day and my family no longer want to speak to him and don’t want me to be with him. When he is sober he is caring, thoughtful, giving and such a hard worker. It’s just awful. I completely understand how you feel. I don’t really know what to do about it and feel torn 🙁