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Hey I’m new to this forum only joined a day ago but after reading everything I think I should confess to you all that when my ex husband was on a high off cocaine alcohol and weed he would watch porn and talk dirty to me about his fantasy of having sex with me and people we knew . He would regret it the next day when he was sober . He would tell me it was the drugs and drink talking and he would never ever do that in reality and I was the only one for him. Etc etc . I hate his guts now for everything but Iv never caught him cheating or anything like that. Maybe he hid that well from me too. Who cares anyway . The lies put me off him and all the stress he caused me and the kids . We are glad we are well shot of him. His behaviour was totally out of control when he was on drugs and even worse with the come down ,
No wife no mother should have to put up with that and live a life like walking on eggshells.
I want to chat to you because you sound like my ex husband . I did everything in my power to make him stop taking drugs . You don’t know the effect this has on your other half . Ask me . I hate My ex husband guts for what torture he put me and the kids through. I can never ever forgive him, you need to get help if you want to save this relationship.
Please I beg you leave this man ,don’t go back to him. Iv left my abusive horrible ex husband who is addicted to cocaine and alcohol. I lost everything because of him .. took loans out paid his debts off to take stress off his head nothing worked he still sniffed cocaine still drank alcohol still smoked marijuana and was still going out and turning his phones off disappearing for nights . Then apologising and crying and promising never to do it again and how much he regrets it.
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Hi Amski 12 your story is identical as mine ….. I’m being made homeless and my ex husband cocaine addict did nothing to help . To help him come off drugs and Alcohol I paid a lot of his debts off and helped him financially thinking it would load the stress off him and he would stop turning to drugs but it just made things worse. We were constantly arguing and he became very violent . He would smash things up around the house and my kids would witness it all. I would always be left with bruises cuts and he would storm out. Many occasions Iv kicked him out then a few days later he would calm down and start sobbing telling me how sorry he was and promise he would never do it again . I’d fall for it because I guess I loved him and cared for him at the time . Then a few days later he would see his friends and have a sniff and start all over again with the dramas ..got worse .. he would turn his phone off and be out all night and I’d be worried sick up all night thinking he is seeing someone else having an affair. Anxiety is an understatement the level of stress was immense.. I seeked professional help and counselling as I couldn’t manage with daily house chores and taking care of my children’s needs. I ended up soo depressed and became that close to suicidal . I was often let down by him and his promises were all lies and he even started pawning valuable sentimental items in to feed his habit. He would demand money from me and when I finally refused he just lashed out and left . He would manipulate me and make me feel guilty for not helping him. I did everything in my power to help him stop because I loved him but let me tell you there is nothing you can do it’s all down to the addict but he refused so finally I’m soo happy without him and I stopped all contacts with him .(my Two children are not to him thank god) after 6 years finally I left him . Best decision Iv ever made . Feel like Iv got my life back now and my children are very happy.
I’m going through the similar struggle as you but the difference is my husband doesn’t just only drink alcohol he smokes weed and sniffs cocaine . I have two children that are not with him and they have seen the effects of my marriage on the rocks with my husband. His behaviour and attitude is degrading towards me and my children when he is on a come down . When he is out he will turn his phone off and go on all night till morning intoxicated himself as much as he can and then blame me for his doings . We have a lot of arguments which get physical and my kids witness everything. He storms out of the house and leaves me all upset and I’m questioning myself how was it my fault . This is an addiction your husband has and he needs help or else he will never change and you and your children are the ones who will suffer . Best option leave him for good and move on . I know it’s very hard and I’m sorry if I sound harsh but it’s reality you are the one who needs to take action . I have left my husband we no longer live together although we are still married legally but I won’t allow him back in my life. He hurt me tooooo much . I got myself in huge debt because of him which lead to me and my kids being evicted from our home .
I’m going through the same
Danman83
Tell him to get lost. He crnt cheat the test but he is a probably just throwing in all the bull shits he can to convince you to stay with him. I went through the same with my ex husband maybe worse than you I don’t know but he never changed and it was getting bad to worse that I got evicted from my house lost everything I had to my last penny to feed his addiction and he didn’t give a crap .
Omg I crnt believe what I am reading. Exactly what I’m going through maybe worse than you . My husband is a cocaine addict and drinks alcohol and smokes weed and takes viagras for errection. We have been trying for a baby two years now we both are in our 30’s . We have no children together but I have two kids from previous relationship . I have done everything in power for him to stop all this but some how all the blame will come back on me . He even tried to get me hooked on it. I have never in my life had alcohol or taken cocaine but he wanted me too see for myself why it’s soo difficult for him to stop .
He won’t admit he has a drug problem because every 3 days the most he will rattle for cocaine and he thinks that’s not an addiction it’s Just normal . He is very abusive when he crnt get his addiction, he will demand money from me even pawn in valuable items to get the money . Iv suffered emotion mental physical financial abuse . Seen it all the lies the secrets the guilt trips the manipulation the lot . Finally I have told him on your bike because I crnt take it no more ..
Don’t bother with him. His happiness isn’t important your happiness is. Let me tell you my husband has had an addiction of marijuana and cocaine for years before I met him. He kept me in the dark for years and everything went unnoticed . I have been with him for 6 years now and Iv tried everything to help him. Paid debts off for him so he stops feeling depressed and turns to drugs and drink. Iv even gave him money when he needed it but he has shown no appreciation. Addicts are very sweet and charming when they need something but when you refuse to help them you will experience physical emotional and mental abuse . I’m still going through it right now as we speak . I’m fed up myself Iv lost all my assets including my home and I’m being made evicted in 3 weeks time and my husband isn’t bothered one bit because he has a home at his parents house . The arguments have been really bad between us and this is now the end of our marriage . I did my best to help me . My advise to you is get out of this relationship as fast as you can before you lose your on insanity with an addict coz that’s what’s happening..