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Everyone on this forum agrees with you there!
My partner has had two detoxes but still drinks. Her support got stopped which didn’t help the last time.
How’s she doing for support ?
Morning Paul, sorry to hear all this.
I don’t know nothing about drug addiction, but my partner is addicted to alcohol. Even though I have told her a thousand times it’s ok to drink in front of me (I rather see what she’s drinking just in case she collapses again, that way I know what to tell paramedics) but she won’t. She rather hide it from me every day, she rather stress about drinking and hiding it from me then to actually drink in front of me.
She Says, she is embarrassed about it. She made one bad choice in her life and it’s been with her every day since, she doesn’t want me to see her like that.
I honestly don’t know what to say to you to help, but if you need someone to listen, I’ll be here.
All the best to your little boy & sorry to hear your story.
Am currently living with a female alcohol dependent partner, at her worse time She was drinking up to 2 litres of vodka per day.
Due to over a decade of drinking she has liver and kidney damage, pancreatitis, she lost a lot of weight, and now suffers pain each day as her muscles regrow back into her skin. Its a hard road to walk beside some one you love destroy them self’s. we also lost unborn children a few times in our relationship, it’s never been easy.
Wish people could see what they could end up in hospital like, I spent a few months by my partner side in ICU and it’s not pretty.
We are all here to talk if you need people to talk too.
Glad your ok.
This pandemic Hasn’t been great on anyone, specially people who are trying to recover and have no help now due to the pandemic.
Set my partner recovery back losing her social worker before this pandemic.
Now she talks to someone via messenger who’s going through the same thing as her.
Just checking in to see if you ok, noticed no one had responded to your post.
When things get a bit much at home, I walk the dog, he gives me time alone and is a good listener.
Other times I just go off cleaning the house.
Everyone deals with it differently.
Hope you ok tho.
Think we are all here for each other, most people don’t understand what’s it’s like, good to finally chat to others who know.
Thank you
I know what you mean.
I wish you all the luck in finding a place of your own!
He may see it that way, you should remind him that your not running away, he’s decided to stop moving forward, you haven’t.
Best thing you could do is continue keeping yourself clean, remind her every day that you will do whatever it takes to show her and your child that you want to be back in their life’s. if you make a promise with her, keep it.
She might be at the end of her tether, you may need to stand back and think she may just want some happiness in her life.
But I hope you stay clean and hope she relies that you are trying.
All the best.
It was shock she needed to reach out for help. It’s been a very long road, she still drinks, but nothing like the litre of vodka she was drinking each day, sometimes 2 litres.
I’ve recently been in that situation, we pretty much broke up, she throw me out our home. Lucky enough the hotel I work for was happy enough to put me in one if there rooms till I sort things out. Sadly me moving out made things worse, she couldn’t pay the bills, she constantly stressed about everything, stopped eating, couldn’t walk the dog, even though I said I would help with the bills and walk the dog each day. So we agreed for like the 10th time that we would try again. Silly I know but since she’s been trying and I would hate to see her in a worse condition after all she has been through.
I’ve been accused of everything she could think off when she was in her bad states.
But I do believe in some cases it’s best to leave and stay gone.
A friend had said to me a few months back.
You only have one life. When it’s gone, it’s gone. Do you want to spend your one life worrying, being unhappy, fighting, being scared or would you rather have peace, happiness, a life.
Unless they admit and willing to seek help there isn’t much you can say, each person I believe has a defining moment where they see how much damage they are causing to them self’s or there love ones, I believe my partner realise this when she was giving 6months to live.
Before this, just mentioning alcohol caused her to flare up and cause arguments.
Hope he comes to realise how much hurt he is putting you through.
You aren’t alone though this.