[rubyroo]

Hi Kklost,

Thank you for replying. Things have got beyond terrible and I’m struggling… but your response has helped.

This weekend he turned up crying begging for my help, I stupidly agreed told him to get clothes and come back sleep and we would get advice. He then turned called me a wh@re and left and carried on his smoking, so much so that he then went to the police to say I was having him followed And had emptied his bank crazy crazy stuff, then told his children the same, so I then got abuse off them too! It’s literally horrendous. I hear what you are saying, I just don’t know how to turn my back when u see he is in such a bad place. The police wanted to section him. I am protecting myself but mentally I’m exhausted and hurt. Where did you go for counselling as this has taken a huge toll on me and I’m just trying to keep my head above water at the moment. He doesn’t seem to even want help! It hurts his children think I’m the problem it’s just every angle but I can’t reason with unreasonable As he’s not even acting like the man I fell in love with. I have set boundaries; and I will maintain them now; as no matter how bad I’m feeling now, it doesn’t compare to how bad he’s making me feel every day! Even his children are abusive to me now and it’s not a nice place to be. I will get there though as I see it’s not me. All I’ve done is be decent and kind and try to help, but I can’t fix someone no one can!

Do I just go dr for a referral for counselling? I’m out of my depth here!

Thanks for your advice and kind words,

Ruby x

[rubyroo]

Hi, so it’s 5am and after all the promises and me listening and offering to support and help.:. He didn’t turn up again, and I could tell the distinct pattern! He’s using! After all day telling me he loves me and I really do love him and I reassure him I’m not Cheating or talking to anyone. He goes mad calls me a sl@g wh@re and worse etc and then calls me from 3;40 demanding to know who’s in my house, to a point where he makes me video call to prove it! Says I’m twisting his head it’s all me! I’m lost I’m confused breaking my heart yet again, disrupting my life. I’m so anxious and lost, he even makes his kids believe I’m sat with someone, why they now hate me! I know I can’t make him change but I’m in love with him when he’s normal he’s my world and it’s killing me to know I’ve got to lose that person cos of his choices, and nothing I can do will wake him up! Another awful day, but there are so many, when will I wake up ????

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