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Hi not been on for a while but I am struggling to weather I should carry on and stand by my 27 year old son. He keeps promising to change saying he stopping . I know he’s still doing cocaine lying and just doesn’t seem to care it’s breaking my heart . Me and his dad are contently rowing over him. My husband says I’m on at my son all the time and should back off . I feel I’m the only one fighting to prevent him killing himself . I don’t how else to deal with it . Shall I kick him out or stand by him it’s been going on for two years with a 3 months clean 18 months ago . He’s a compulsive lier and just doesn’t seem to care .

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The one thing I have learned is that . It has to be there choice to change we can’t make them so sad but true .

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Honestly we are exactly same we have give him chance after chance we want to through him out but scared if anything happens we want forgive ourselves we have had 2 years of it but he did get clean for 3 months but the the mother of his son stopped him seeing his son which set him off again . So we are back to square one again . The first time round his brothers helped but they won’t speak to him now for what he as done to us . I wish I had answers for you or someone have answered for us both . Like you we are broken hearted but we just have to take one day at a time . They have got to want to change we can’t make them .x

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Hi tiredmam I’m also new this but glad there is someone to talk to. I sympathise with you so much as we are going through the same . my son as lost everything even his son , we have tried everything like you we are at our wits end but I have been told never to give up so we just keep

trying but not sure how much more we can take .

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Thank you so much Lindyloo it means a lot talking to people going through the same . Take care x

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Thank you So true it’s more the lies I can’t deal with because I was believing he was clean then started finding things in his room . I love him to bits but it’s making myself and my husband ill I don’t want to kick him out and don’t know if I am doing the right thing friends keep telling us to kick him out as we have put up with it for two years I feel we are not helping and he won’t go for help we are worried if we do kick him out and something happens we will never forgive ourselves but if we don’t we carry on with sleepless nights and crying as well as his dad and myself trying to work full time and keep braking down in work work colleges don’t know .

Really wish I knew what was the best thing to do it’s cost us over £40.000 people threading to burn our house down if they don’t get there money so my husband paid every time there’s a knock at the door you dread open it I have had someone chase me in my car because I had my son in the car . That as all stopped at the moment as hasn’t for a few months now . I just wish I knew how to help him. I feel he want to come off it but not strong enough.

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Thank you so much i just feel better knowing I can talk to someone and I am not on my owe . We have given him the option to do a test tomorrow as he keeps saying he is clean . We do t believe him. I know he will fail but wander if we are doing the right thing . But we don’t know what else to do he as stole and lied over the last two years we feel we just don’t know what to do any more . His brother want speak to him because of what he as done . He got clean for 3 months and was doing really well then his ex stopped him

From seeing his son nothing to do with drugs but that broke him and sent him

On a spiral down fall x

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