Hi Clare.
Im in a slightly differnet situation but completly understnad where ur comin from. Im 32 and my husband is 36. we have been married 4 14 yrs.hes always liked a drink but has gradually been drinking more.hes recently been on the course of chlordiaxpride and now has not had a drink 4 3 weeks. but my confusion comes from the fact that alough he openly drank, it was only ever evenings and weekends. He never drank during the day and he only ever drank normal strenght beer or wine. I guess theres a sterio typical alcholic but its only when ur in this possition u find out just how differnet people r affefcted by alchol. my husband had spoken 2 his dad (whos 59) on may occasions and siad he was worried bout the amount he drinks but hes dad told him EVERY time. u dont have a prob unless u wake up wanting a drink!! Not helpfull but then his dad does drink most nites.
Hope my waffle helps a little.