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My partner is an alcoholic and it got really bad at the end of last year where he was leaving the house for a week or even over and just drinking untill he past out. He let me and the kids down big time (week before Christmas) I said I would never ever take him back but as per I felt sorry for him and he was in a bad way when he stopped drinking and I found out his mum was giving him money for drink ???? so when I let him home he went cold Turkey and I locked him in the house when I needed to go to work. It only lasted a few days and since then hes been in a great place and has been about 4 weeks sober. I on the other hand is just waiting for the day. Waiting for the day he let’s me and the kids down and the day I get home from work and hes neglected his fatherly duties and trashed the house. I try and think positive but it’s always there. I always look for the signs..the signs of him acting like a spoilt child throwing his toys out of the pram so it can end up been an excuse or an argument so he can turn round and use that as an excuse or if I say something he doesnt like that will be an excuse. He promised to me he would tell me hes struggling but hasnt and probs wont but we will see. I did tell him I wouldnt live another year like last and the year before so if he does do it again. That will be it.
My partner has been an alcoholic for about 6 years . Last year it got really bad where he couldn’t be left alone with the kids. He had a metal brake down and lost his job. He was a totally different person when he drank. He didnt care about me or my boys and basically looked like a homeless person. He was spending over £100 a week on alcohol. Life was horrible and mean horrible he would mentally abuse me and sometimes push and shove me. Dont get me started on the verible abuse specially if I didnt give him money or bank cards. I’d throw him out and not hear from him for days or he would be at my door constantly begging to come back home. In October his grandad died (his main sauce of funds) and it was the last time he got thrown out of the house…he had one last chance. Went to the docs and was sent for tests. Basically he got told he HAD to stop drinking as his liver was in a very bad way and he could potentially die. He got given a number to ring for his addiction got a follow up app for 6 months time and sent off on his way..after that appointment he didnt touch a drink for 6 months and was like a totally different person..different partner, different dad and son our lives were starting to look up for the good. I wasnt a big drinker anyway but would maybe meet up with a friend once a month and my.sisters but I stopped coz I wanted to be supportive. We didnt go anywhere really unless it was somewhere with the kids. His appointment got cancelled coz of the Covid 19 (his scan one) and he was disappointed as he wanted to know his hard work was paying off. It was just a normal day went to work he was home with the kids. I came home and he had been drinking from 10 in the morn. The kids hadn’t been fed coz he had drank that much he was sick all over the house and has passed out….all I could see when I saw him was this evil man from 6 months ago and I was so disappointed. It was horrible. Now I’ve had to take money away and not let him use bank cards etc but I’m scared he’s going to keep doing it. Hes now done it twice. I hate going to work and not knowing what I’m gonna come home to and leaving the kids. I just dont want everything we have worked on to go back to that life