[sleeping-beauty]

Thankyou. We’ll give them a try.

[sleeping-beauty]

Hi Jem,

Thanks for the reply and the words of advice. He’s still calling everyday and using threats and emotional blackmail every day to get money so I don’t think he’s ready to change yet but if he ever is I’ll bare your advice in mind. It is a really difficult situation for my partner as her pregnant daughter has been told she can’t stay there unless steps are taken to stop him coming near the house. Her brother goes to rehab tomorrow and as she’s been trying to keep things peaceful so as not to ruin his recovery I’m hoping she’ll be more willing to take action so as not to lose her daughter and grandchild.

Thanks again for the little bit of hope that things can get better.

 

[sleeping-beauty]

Hey I’m glad your tests are clear.

You’re all doing fantastic. Be proud of yourselves for what you’re doing and also for giving people like me hope that things can be ok one day.

[sleeping-beauty]

Thankyou. I’ll give it another go when I see a glimmer of the person I know.

Thank you all for your help and support x

[sleeping-beauty]

No, thankyou for the long reply.

I know she takes (at least) 4 x2 doses of cocodamol but I suspect that she is either supplementing that with over the counter Neurofen which I believe has 12.5mg of codeine, I don’t know how many but I know in the past she has taken 32 in a day but I believe she is getting diazepam from somewhere and it’s this which is knocking her out.

I can cope and support her with all the family problems but seeing her slowly kill herself is just too much. I know though, if I walk away she’ll totally collapse as a person because I’m her only real support.

She has tried the doctor but they’ve just referred her to well woman clinic which hasn’t even got back to her. She came off cocodamol years ago but wouldn’t go to the doctor because then he wouldn’t prescribe them for her if she needed them so she was never prepared to close the door completely back then and certainly wouldn’t need.

She’s a lot younger than me, I’m 63 and she’s 49. I don’t know how many good years I have left and selfishly I don’t want to live my last years crying every day and dealing with this. I feel like I’m running out of time to live and can’t wait for her to come to her senses.

It’s all so so hard.

[sleeping-beauty]

Thanks for the reply Maggie. She’s been addicted to 500/30 cocodamol for around 7 seven years, maybe more, but just lately something has been added because she’s barely functioning. Her family are so dysfunctional that I’m not able to get any help there.

I can cope with the problems they throw up but this is just too much. I have my own place and i stay at hers a few nights a week for reasons I won’t go into but every evening I sit with someone who isn’t able to even hold a conversation.

I’ve told her best friend and showed her photos and videos i’ve taken and she was really shocked because she didn’t realise it was so bad. I’m thinking of the get help or I’m gone route because talking to her and telling her how I feel and everything else I can think of just hasn’t worked.

[sleeping-beauty]

Hi RachBN

I hope you don’t mind me asking, but was there any point at which your husband felt like walking away. I feel like I’m letting my partner down because I don’t think I can watch her destroy herself and listen to her lies and denials for much longer. I sit beside a zombie every evening and it’s wearing me down.

[sleeping-beauty]

Hi StephTom, I don’t think that support group would be her thing, when she’s ready I think she will prefer to go it alone or at least with just my support. She has come off cocodamol before, many years ago, and wanted to do it her way but things with her family have overwhelmed her and she started up again and then some. We had words this morning and I think I saw a chink of light so fingers crossed.

Thanks for caring enough to reply x

[sleeping-beauty]

Thankyou so much RachBN – this has helped a lot. Her son is an addict and her whole family is dysfunctional so I understand why she feels the need. I told her this morning that I will help in any way I can when she wants to stop taking it but I have to walk away each time I see her floating because I have to protect my mental health. Hopefully she’ll realise what she’s doing to herself. x

[sleeping-beauty]

Thankyou I will get in touch x

[sleeping-beauty]

Thanks for the reply. I hope that she is as strong as you and can find her way out of this. She denies it so vehemently that I end up doubting myself but I know what I’m seeing. Well done to you and be proud of yourself x

[sleeping-beauty]

Thankyou. I should have looked for help a lot sooner. Good luck to you too x

[sleeping-beauty]

Hi and thanks for the reply. It’s a confusing forum lol I can’t find my original post. It’s my partner who’s addicted. I guess it’s just a waiting game until she realises what she’s doing. Not sure how much more I can take of the lies if I’m honest.

[sleeping-beauty]

Can any of you guys help? I put a post up but I don’t think anyone’s seen it yet? Is it normal to deny that you’ve taken stuff even though it’s blatantly obvious to your partner? And what motivated you to want to stop. I don’t know what to do as I feel i’ve tried everything x

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