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Also I wanted to share this with everyone that is reading if you have children and you are living with a coke addict you have to be so careful. Because if social services find out they will come for you not him.
And the reason being is because they will say you are administrating the drugs for him.
So if you in this situation you have to kick him out asap. You might not want to or you might feel sorry for them but you give him 4 weeks notice. If you are scared you speak to someone. But remember you need to put the children first you are their protector.
And if your husband questions why? You tell them straight I will not accept this drug using around my children.
Because I’m telling you, you do not want social services on your case.
And your children deserve peace and happiness environment.
Your husband might say or I promise I will stop but guess what they won’t stop overnight. You can’t sit around waiting you kick them out first to protect your children.
That drug is pure evil people don’t just stop within weeks it takes years.
Well done for leaving this toxic relationship you did the right thing and you deserve happiness.
I’m trying to break free of my husband as well we don’t live together as I kicked him out back in March.
I just recently caught him on tik tock sending inappropriate comments to other women.
This is 4th time now over 7 years I’ve caught him do this to me and he knows how much pain it causes me.
I’m willing to divorce him end of the month and start the application.
It’s sooo hard so I admire you for leaving him you are inspiring thank you for sharing your story because this is what I want to do and I really need to find my inner courage.
Xx
Yes my husband has been taking Coke for 7 years. We have been together for 7 years. He is also a gambler and obsessed with dating online sites and commenting on other womens profiles.
I kicked him out in March. And I swear to god I have more money now then I have ever had when living with him.
The shit he has put me through. And I can imagine what you all are going through.
Anyway after I kicked him out March he’s been attending his anonymous meetings, and living somewhere else.
I’ve had so much peace in my life since he’s don’t live here. However he still emotional blackmails me and swears at me.
I just recently caught him
On tik tock he made a new account and I saw inappropriate comments to other women. When I asked him
About this he said he swears on his mums life it wasn’t him and he got hacked. I cried for two nights whilst my boys were asleep thinking I am not good enough. I feel so insecure about myself knowing that the man that supposedly loves me would rather comment and tell other women they are gorgeous. I know he is lying I wish he wasn’t but I know the truth. Im In soo much pain and I’ve had enough the first and second time I let it go now he’s not willing to stop I’m getting a divorce.
He keeps saying he loves me and would die for me etc if he loved me he would never hurt me like this with all the lies.
At first I understood the drug is making him do these bad things. But enough is enough I’m
Mentally drained and emotional depressed I have two boys to look after and I need to be strong for them.
I’ve tried so hard to make this work he’s not trying hard. He’s going backwards and hurting me still.
This is not life this is torture.
I’ve been asking for miracles and it seems like I’m seeing hell with him.
Anyway slowly but surely I’m going to divorce him. I won’t tell him I’m going to do it quietly because he will go angry and crazy.
What I don’t understand is I’m going to be 37 soon and you think with age you become stronger and mature and to be honest I feel like a stupid person in love with the wrong person I just wish I had strength to leave this man for good. When will I learn? Why do I allow this in my life.
Wish me luck ladies.
I’m going through to same thing, I’ve been with my husband for 7 years. I had no idea he was taking cocaine until our son was born in 2017. I threatened to kick him out, pushed him to seek help from Frank and even paid £1,000 with a hypnosis man called Dr Wald it didnt work!
One day he got very aggressive and angry and corned me in the corner and raised his hands to hit me. My 4 year old boy witnessed this and something just clicked in my head and I had enough I went to the police station.
I never called police on him this was the first time I done this so he would hit his rock bottom and wake up.
Social services were in my life. He attended his na appointments. Anyway I kicked him out it’s been 5 months.
He said he now wants to change 100%.
He is telling me he is clean but is still being a complete ass to me. Like when ever he visits us he just looks depressed and he blames me and says it’s my fault I kicked him out and I’m treating him like a toy.
He’s not as angry and aggressive like before but more depressed. So whether he is clean or not who knows. I’m thinking to make him do a test next time I see him.
I will never ever let him move into my household because I need to protect my children. He’s still abit angry and depressed man.
I love the peace in my mind and in my own space.
I’m on a stage now what do I do? Do I wait and see if he changes….and be by his side. Or do I just break the marriage. I still love him but I’m not happy and I don’t trust him I feel like when I was living with him was the biggest nightmare of my life.
He was so manipulative back when he was as on the drugs and even now still trying to manipulate me into me feeling guilty that he not with me.
But the truth stands I’ve woken up and realised what I will tolerate and what I want. And as a mother I will dare have social services come back to my life again. I felt so ashamed so degraded having social services come into my life. I’m a good hearted person my boys are excelling well at school I have a good job but my husband is the complete opposite because of this evil drug.
I pray that he leaves me alone and take responsibility because he keeps side tracking with false promises.
He just lies to me and trying to fool me into thinking that he is changing for me and the kids I just don’t believe it.
I’m so shocked to see so many women going through this with their husbands absolutely shocking.
I just want my husband to be kind, loving no lies and treat me with respect and give me peace and harmony in my life.
I think I’m dreaming.