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I know exactly how you feel. Many a time I’ve witnessed my mum drunk early in the morning. I’m pretty sure she drinks continuously through day and night any time she’s awake. I also can relate as my mum had a very good career working in mental health, worked very hard and took pride in herself. Now she neglects her basic personal hygiene whilst drinking. Literally doesn’t leave her bed unless it’s to eat which isn’t as regular as it should be or to clearly sneak to the shop. I’d say my parents have spent near on £60,000 on 5 different rehab centres and she’s still relapsing every few weeks/months. I’m not sure there is anything left for us to do, I’ve even taken her bank cards but she threatens to call police on me. She has done some pretty desperate stuff whilst drinking and the lies just roll off her tongue. This forum is helping me so much and I’ve asked my dad to look into something to support him. I just wish he would leave her and enjoy the rest of his life while he can. She isnt even nice to him. Infact she’s awful. I know he won’t though. I think the main thing is your mum knows you will support her no matter what. I don’t even talk to my mum when I visit my dad if she’s been drinking. Hope you and your mum are both okay x
Hi, sorry to hear your story. Sounds very similar to mine but with my mum. My dad always says he will leave her. Then she fixes herself up a bit and he stays, just for her to relapse again. She lies to us all the time and also drinks neat vodka. Not sure how she’s still alive as she can drink a litre a day over a period of time. Not sure when or how she even gets to the shop but she manages somehow. Unfortunately for us, we have to face the reality of their decisions to drink, where as the alcoholic family members continue to feel numb and seemingly don’t care about the consequences or feelings of their family members. I’m tired of trying to understand or help my mum at this stage.
I do hope you feel some comfort in knowing you aren’t alone. Although I know it doesn’t help the situation you’re in. Take care x
Hi, sorry to hear about your fiance. No one should have to go through this. I completely know what you mean about them even looking different. My mum looks and acts like a complete different woman. But because she is so nice when sober it’s hard not to forgive her when she sobers up again. I just can’t help feeling resentment towards her for how selfish she can be at times. My dad is such a hardworking, kind, caring man and doesn’t deserve it. No doubt your children feel the same about you not deserving this either. Just so sad. Take care x
My mother is an alcoholic. I’m grown and have my own home with my own kids but my dad still lives with my mum although for years he’s been saying he wants to leave. My mum is the loveliest mum/wife when sober then she will find some excuse to start drinking and find some one to blame and it’s my poor dad who has to live with it day in/day out. I wish he would have the courage to leave and enjoy the rest of his life (both in their 60s). We as a family have had to deal with this for 10+ years. She’s been to rehab a good few times, attended meetings in the past but then does well for a few months and thinks she’s then ok. We can always tell when she’s started again and it’s heartbreaking every time she relapses. It never gets easier and she can be so nasty and spiteful when drinking especially to me and my dad. She’s been doing so well the last few months and has now started with the drink and abuse again in the last week. Now my dad is completely stuck indoors having to face it all alone.