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I’ve only told my best friend and also my parents (although they don’t know about his cheating in the past). He’s been to the doctor about his depression, but he would never go about his drinking I don’t think.

The drinking got worse when he lost his father 5 years ago.

His job is a huge part of it too, as it was his dads business before his and it is stressful as it’s all on him really.

I’ve said perhaps some CBT or something might benefit him, from personal experience I found it useful. But he won’t talk to anybody about it, sometimes he’ll talk to me after a few drinks but only says a little then shuts off. I try and address our family issues and he changes the subject, says I can’t talk about it at the moment or says ‘when I’m feeling better’ (he’s been off work for a few weeks with stress).

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He knows, but doesn’t seem to change things. He’s on antidepressants anyway, as he’s been going through a tough time himself, he’s said things will improve when his head is sorted but I just don’t know if it will change…

We’ve been together 13 years, but the past 6 months (ish) things haven’t been right and we’ve drifted apart. Other things have happened to our relationship; when he’s been on the odd night out he’s gone on, that have affected how I feel about us as a couple. I feel almost pushed away.

Sorry to ramble! ????

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I think deep down I know that, but it’s taking the plunge. He’s not a bad guy just puts his family business and beer first unfortunately. I feel like a single mum anyway to be quite honest

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Great, I will give that a go Thankyou. It would be nice to also hear off anybody else in my situation with children, as it’s them I’m most concerned about obviously

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Thankyou for the reply.

I just realised that I posted my post twice, oops!

Yes I’m finding it stressful and financially it doesn’t help us at all, I’m struggling with everyday costs because of his habit.

I will check out the website as I think I would find physically speaking to someone a little daunting yet.

Thankyou again ????

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