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Have you spoken to Al-anon friends and family?

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It’s new to me too, found it through a link from Al-anon f&f. It’s good to hear similar stories. Good luck xx

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I’ve really appreciated talking to you. I read your post. Also step-mumming to his 12yo boy who lives with us, it’s hard! He’s not hiding his drinking or drugs from you, long may that continue so allowing the emotional and physical space for it seems good. A life with you and a future is a wonderful thing to hold on to but it can’t be the only good thing. When you fight all will seem hopeless, lost and pointless. In the right frame of mind your success will inspire him. If this is forever, 6 months or 2 years is a drop in the ocean and it doesn’t matter if its shit right now. You wanting to save him is a beautiful thing, he needs to want to save himself. I’m prepared for things to get much harder before they get easier. How about keeping a diary of the good things and the sweet comments, something for you to focus on and look at when times get tough xx

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Hi, he exploded at first because when I said I’d been talking to Al-anon friends and family he thought I’d been talking to my actual friends and family. We talked (it’s never been my strong suit) I’m going to go to one f+f meeting and he does say that if he went to an AA meeting it would make it real. He has definitely been drinking more since we met and moved in together, adjusting has been a struggle and I do blame myself for a lot of that, my previous lifestyle was very promiscuous and with the age difference, he worries someone will catch my eye. I didn’t know how much the lack of weed was having an effect. Thinking about it all the time, a meal isn’t worth it because he can’t have a joint afterwards, and now the same with drink. Physical and mental symptoms constantly. The last 24 hours he’s been doing really well. I think it would be good for him to talk to someone who understands the withdrawal symptoms and can empathise, I don’t ‘get wrecked’ so I don’t get it. He says he wants to fall in love with me all over again and I will hold on to that x

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