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i can’t speak for anyone else but my addiction sneaked up on me.
I worked in London as a finance broker through my 20s. I earned a fortune and lived the high life. I have always liked a drink and I have always been a social user of cocaine. But i could take or leave it, and I often would. I certainly didn’t consider doing it when I wasn’t partying with friends.
That has changed during the last 12 months. I have become dependant on both alcohol and cocaine. This has sneaked up on me – the control has switched from me to the addiction – I just didn’t see this coming.
I am happy and healthy with the most beautiful wife and children.
Regarding associated behaviour, I haven’t been unfaithful to my wife but I have found myself gambling more than I ever half. Fortunately i realised before it was too late that i really didn’t need another addiction.
The cocaine drives you towards risk and thrill. The consequences just don’t seem real.
None of this is an excuse, my wife is trying to support me but i can see the hurt in her eyes. She’s exhausted with worry. The children too – I noticed my youngest daughter has tucked a photo of me holding her as a baby, on her bed side table.
Heartbreaking.
You’re right to be cautious about the cycle. It is a behaviour which repeats. I can be as tempted to use it when I’m feeling well as when I’m feeling down. The addiction sneaks up on you, before taking you hostage.
He’s got to try and break this cycle, and if he gives it 100%, and if he remains open and honest, then he possibly deserves your love and support.
Not sure where my recovery is at the moment but it’s helping to engage with the families of other abusers. It helps me see to the damage I’m inflicting on my family.
I am responding to your message as a person addicted to both alcohol and cocaine.
Cocaine is an awful drug. It destroys your ability to make decisions, it removes your ability to weigh-up consequences. You become the worst version of yourself.
If your partner shows no interest in saving himself or you and your family, get out.
I have so much sympathy for those who end up as collateral damage to this condition x
Do not underestimate coke addiction. It’s awful. It leads to a hyper-sensitive life where the person is constantly looking for the next high without contemplating the consequences.
No excuses. We all have choices. The coke addict is selfish. The coke addict will have no real understanding of the pain caused,
I have the most beautiful wife and family. I have no reason to behave like this.
I’m listening to your stories and my heart hurts thinking of your pain.
It sounds to me like you’ve made the correct decision. I hope it didn’t sound like I was trying to justify his behaviour.
Good luck with everything.
It sounds to me like you’ve made the correct decision. I hope it didn’t sound like I was trying to justify his behaviour.
Good luck with everything.
It sounds to me like you’ve made the correct decision. I hope it didn’t sound like I was trying to justify his behaviour.
Good luck with everything.
I feel awful for you all. There’s no way to win this battle from the outside.
This issue belongs to the addicted and can only be resolved by them.
I am currently trying to battle my cocaine addiction with great difficulty. I am a good person with a good family, this addiction has caught me off guard.
My wife is beautiful and she is fighting for us, but it is very difficult.
I wish you all happiness x
I understand this. I feel this. I have been declining into a cocaine/drinking habit for years now.
I worked in the city as a broker in my 20s and I lived the high life – I found it easy to get on it, and easy to get off. Not now.
My beautiful wife and children, now 21, 16 and 15, are starting to see through me. My wife is desperate to keep our family alive but she knows she’s battling against my cocaine addiction.
I’ve always been very well paid and made good financial decisions but that is changing. I reckon I’ve blown £50k in the last 6 months.
Worst thing is, I did coke again today. I’m not sure why, it just happened.
I am a good person. But I am a flawed. And I am on danger of destroying everyone around me.
I do hope you get a chance to put things right.