[steph94]

Hi Stephanie,

I can feel the hurt in your messages. Your in a no win situation, you want the man you married and you don’t want to give up on him when you feel he needs you most but you also dont want a life of heartache for you and your children.

There is no answer to this because either path you take, whether you stay or leave there will Always be a sense of guilt and question to if you made the right decision.

What you need to know is you should not feel guilty for doing what you feel is the right thing for you and your children and right now it sounds your undecided.

Having a family member have an addiction to this and alcohol, there is only so many chances you can give. Many times, girls come into his life thinking they will be the one to change him, when in reality the only one that can change them is themselves. I guess it’s different getting into a relationship with someone who is already an addict than it is the love of your life then becoming one. It’s a difficult decision to make but you wouldn’t be the first to leave or the last to stay so put yourself first. My family member lost the love of his life along with his 9 year old daughter because she chose to leave and in no way as a family do we blame her.

I hope you find the strength you need to get through this difficult time. I hope your husband is one to become a survivor because it’s sounds like he has a loving wife waiting for him to become the man he once was.

My thoughts are with you all.

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