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Sorry to hear that!

That is good to learn. I agree with the trauma having an impact. Yes I feel that is what my husband is doing. I am awful for overeating ????

Yes he’s got a phone meeting with a local AA rep tomorrow ????????????????

I don’t have support, I have seen there is a family AA group though but not running currently due to COVID

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One thing I forgot to mention is that my husband is blaming me. We’ve had a turbulent relationship since we met, I had a miscarriage early on in our relationship which triggered depression and then pregnant 7 months of being together. Post natal depression after the baby… I went through a rough time and didn’t deal with it well at all. He is saying that has had an impact on him mentally. A lot happened very quick so we didn’t get to know each other properly first. He’s always been a drinker even way before I met him.

His sister also had a brain haemorrhage and stroke 2 years ago, which he never acknowledged or dealt with. He has been diagnosed with accelerated hypotension and on medication for life. I am very worried about him

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That’s fantastic, 12 years!! Amazing achievement well done

I am unsure too, I am able to stop when I’ve had enough my husband can’t ever just have one or two. I’m black and white at times, for me there’s no grey areas. U can either drink in moderation or not and my husband can’t.

I’ll have a look at the AA text.

He has started to become intimidating in front of the children now, I’ve tried speaking to his sister but he doesn’t listen to anyone!

As far as experience goes he has said it a few times and it’s usually because he’s in the dog house because I’ve had enough. This time tho, I’ve set boundaries. No physical contact, i am in the spare room. I’ve asked him not to initial conversation in front of the children and other sensible and healthy boundaries…but yesterday He said he doesn’t accept them.

He drinks Thursday to Sunday and then drinks shandy through the week. It’s like he has to have the taste.

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Anyone have any advice or experience similar? I’m interested to know whether things actually change?

Struggling to commit to my marriage

[tess29]

Have you tried to access some support groups locally for yourself

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