[tflango]

Thanks for responding Danman83. He did go to college in the end – we had a difficult evening with him last night, he was very anxious and full of self-pity & self-loathing and saying that there was absolutely no way he could go to college. I didn’t say much in reply, as I can never say the right thing – I was just there for him as he ranted. This morning I just acted like it was a normal morning and assumed he was getting up and going in, so he was actually ok until we were in the car driving there, when he was begging me to turn around and take him home. I just told him that he had to go in and it would be much harder to go in if he missed the first day – tough love, but sometimes he has to be pushed to take the first step.

He came out of college in a good mood and full of it all, so fingers crossed it continues! I just know as soon as I try and talk to him again about drugs or our expectations and boundaries, he’ll go off into one again (& our doors are battered too…), but then it has been like this for years with him – a complete rollercoaster of moods and behaviour. You never know what you’re going to get with him and it’s a very fine line between happy son and unhappy, raging son. You can click your fingers and his mood has changed.

Thanks a lot for your advice – useful to hear it from someone who has been there and come through it 🙂

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