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Sounds like he is in need of someone to really be there for him and that won’t judge or say the obvious things like “that is so stupid of you” etc. unfortunately the drugs is that someone right now.

I’m new to this forum thing, and to be honestly I so happened to click your post by accident and your situation touched home so I made an acct.

As for your question, my opinion is to definitely try to let him open up about (I wouldn’t call it mental issues) but open up about what’s causing him so much pain inside. More then likely he is suffering from something that has happened to him or that took a big toll on him and probably hasn’t opened up about it to someone before. That can really mess with someone’s emotions, which leads to looking for something to help cope with.

Everybody’s different, so you’ll have to make your own approach because you know him better then others I’m sure. Try not to threaten him with leaving him and reacting to his responses because the second you do that, it will most likely dig him deeper into the escape drug, cause that’s what it is at the end of the day, an escape.

Another thing, if you choose to stay with him, you need to understand that your also choosing to go on that rough journey with him, and if you can’t do it because you’ll always assume he is doing it still behind your back when maybe his is or isn’t, you need to make the right choice for yourself also, that worry will consume you and it won’t get easier. But like I said every situation is different.

I hope this helped, never done this before so sorry if that was too much. I wish nothing for the best for you both, the fact that you are trying to find a solution tells me your a genuine person. And if there’s anything else I can help with feel free to ask.

-Chris

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