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Hi everyone. Don’t give up on your children. Don’t get angry with them, don’t push them away. Bring them in a close as you can and show them how much you love them. They are not doing these things to hurt us, they are doing it because they are suffering.
Since I quit my job two weeks ago to spend more time with my son, we have become close again. He had gone to see a drug counsellor for cannabis addiction, twice now, he has worked on goals for the future and I have found him some work experience and a pathway to a possible apprenticeship, he opens up to me and shares his thoughts and understandings about the world. He still smokes a lot of weed but now he is able to talk about it more openly with me and he is in a process of evaluating how it is affecting his life.
We have to be there for our kids and support them in every way we can. We need to learn to listen. Take an interest in what they are interested in, their hopes and dreams for the future. We need to remind them who they really are and 100% be there for them.
Because nobody else will.
I’ve just joined this forum today. My son is 15, and is dependant on cannabis and smokes a lot of DMT.
I’ve just given up my part time job to spend more time with him, try to understand him better, listen to him more and try to help him.
I’ve just found a drug and alcohol counseling service at our local community health service and my main goal right now is to try and get him there for a chat with the psychologist.
I think the best way to help is to not be pushy, judgmental, blaming or angry, but to be loving, understanding, and to empower them to make better choices.
The psychologist I spoke to told me to invite him to come and have a chat about what is quelling for him and what isn’t, in regard to the drugs. I like this approach and I think her might have a chance of helping my son as it sounds like it’s collaborative rather than simply telling my son what to do.
I’m praying every day for my son and for all the other kids who are caught up in similar messes that our kids are in.