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Thank you Georgia, can I ask you all shall I go home or stay with my parents, after seeing him taking drugs suddenly I feel very insecure. In the past couple of months, sometimes When I woke up in the middle of the night, he was either watching my son in his crib or standing next to me. Everytime I asked what are you doing he changed the topic.
I video call him couples of times in past two days, when he was taking drugs( While watching him through baby’s monitor camera), once he finished what he was doing, he call me back and he acted very normal, showing his love for us and how much he miss us etc.,
I even asked him why his nose is leaking, he said he has flu symptoms.
I told my parents and they are more worried about our safety.
To be honest the past couple of days feels like years, and my brain is still refusing to accept the reality
. My parents said I should not mention to him that I saw him doing drugs, and continues act normally, in case he do something with me or my son.They are worried that if I decide to leave him, how we will pay the bills, as currently both of us are relays on him financially and I gave all my savings to him.
We are moving in September from Dublin to Manchester( near my parents house ) as he is starting new job in Manchester. Shall I pretend( which will be really hard now after seeing him) until then or not to go back to Dublin at all?
Ladies please guide me what should I do?
Hi everyone,
I have been married to my partner from the past two years, we have 9 months old baby, I came to visit my parents for couple of days, by mistake I left my son’s baby monitor camera on, my partner was at home (told me he is at work), I was checking my phone and by chance clicked on the app. I am shocked to discovered that my husband was taking cocaine in a very large amount. We have a very beautiful family life, he always acted very good towards me, he has a very good job, he made me quit my job so I can look after the baby. Sitting here and thinking about all those clues in the house related to his drugs addiction making me sick and very upset. Since I saw him taking drugs, I can’t sleep or eat and I am very stressed my brain. My dream life is shutter in million pieces. All I am thinking how long more when he will start doing this in-front of my son, I mean how long more he will hide it from us and how I will react when I see those clues. He gave me money and bring lots of food but every-time, I laughed he made me upset with his comments and he has no sympathy with me, all this time I thought it is his nature but now it makes sense. We recently bought a house on his name, he didn’t put my name in the mortgage, because I have a house on my name, which was given to me by my parents, and if he put my name in his house then he will get a high interest rate mortgage, but he has no savings so he asked me for the deposit money and stupid me dreaming about family life etc gave him all my savings and he asked me to sign a gift letter so bank can give him a mortgage.Long story short, I gave him all my money without telling anyone and sign a letter that this is a gift
Hi everyone,
I have been married to my partner from the past two years, we have 9 months old baby, I came to visit my parents for couple of days, by mistake I left my son’s baby monitor camera on, my partner was at home (told me he is at work), I was checking my phone and by chance clicked on the app. I am shocked to discovered that my husband was taking cocaine and alcohol in a very large amount. We have a very beautiful family life, he always acted very good towards me and my son, he has a very good job, he made me quit my job, so I can look after the baby and the family’s life.
Sitting here and thinking about all those clues in the house related to his drugs addiction making me sick and very upset. Since I saw him taking drugs, I can’t sleep or eat and I am very stressed. My dream of this ideal life will were building together is shutter in million pieces. All I am thinking how long more when he will start doing this in-front of us, I mean how long more he will hide it from us and how I will react when I go back to home and see those clues, which makes sense not.
He gave me money and bring lots of food but every-time, I laughed he made me upset with his comments and he has no sympathy with me, all this time I thought it is his nature and that’s his mood but now it makes sense.
We recently bought a house on his name, he didn’t put my name in the mortgage, because I have a house on my name, which was given to me by my parents as a gift, according to him, if he put my name in his house then he will get a high interest rate mortgage and will consider a second time buyer, but he has no savings so he asked me for the deposit money and stupid me dreaming about family life etc gave him all my savings and he asked me to sign a gift letter so bank can give him a mortgage. Long story short, I gave him all my money without telling anyone and signed a letter that this is a gift and I have nothing to do with the house. So basically I am totally relay on him financially as I have zero savings.
I don’t know what should I do, shall I tell him that I saw him or keep it to myself. My son is only 9 months old and my husband is a great father. After seeing things on the camera, will I be able to leave my baby alone with him? I mean I can’t trust him anymore, all this time I thought he is giving money to his family that’s why more than a half of his salary is missing every month. They way he was taking the drugs doesn’t seems like he has recently started this, he seems proper addicted. Seeing him through the camera using pornography website and gambling sites makes me worried what if he do something to me or my son, while we are sleeping or when my son is alone with him. I have millions of questions and someone please advise me, shall I act normally when I go back home or tell him.
Thank you