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Hi there I can also 100% relate to what you are going through and am today faced with the same situation, do I kick him out tough love .

He is currently living with us my son (38) split from his girlfriend most relationships ended because of cocaine.

It’s truly heartbreaking …

He’s been in it for the last 4 days I’ve no idea where he is but have just received a txt from him full of remorse and guilt and apologies…..

My last resort is to kick him out as I believe he really does have to hit rock bottom before engaging in any change. The problem for me is that he will commit suicide and I would have to live with that burden!

My dear loving son is a good man and a great human being when sober ….

It is a dilemma and I don’t know what advice to offer other than you are not alone

I feel overwhelmed this week but so so glad I have found this site listening to stories that I can identify with….

Every emotion and all the physical pain we go through I can empathise with and now realise I’m not alone ….

Stay strong sending hugs to you xxx

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Hi And thank you fir your kind response I will get in touch with them x

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Hi Lindy no he doesn’t have a girlfriend they split up about 2 months ago and she cut up every item of clothing he owned, it wasn’t pretty…

And I agree I don’t think anyone has the answers

Well he’s still not back and I found out yesterday that he is borrowing money from a relative ….

Another question I have is how do you relate to friends and family do you tell them your sons a drug user?

Take care xx

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I totally agree I think it was a knee jerk guilt reaction the other day thinking if we see he is asking us for financial help with rehab it will go some way to making his remorse this week feel better.

He also had 6 months drink and coke free last year and desperately wants to give up I’m sure, however he doesn’t want to give up alcohol and thinks he can just be a moderate alcohol drinker but I’m not so sure!!!

Very worried as I have seen the after affect come down and he’s still not back!

He was going to attempt suicidal last year and had written letters to everyone, he was in a state, at the time with his girlfriend who contacted us and we brought him home! It’s all so so sad!

How do we stop this insane poison from corrupting our children and husbands and daughters and families and robbing us all of a normal life!

It’s crazy …..

Thank you for your support xxxx

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Thank you for your response Lindyloo and yes I will have a look at the others you have suggested.

Your right it does consume our lives every waking hour when things go crashing but I do regular exercise to keep me sane….xxx

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