[wittsend]

Hi pollysmyth im in a very similar position, although my son is younger at 21 and has had multiple addictions over the past 3 years, with alcohol abuse always being an underlying condition. Afraid I don’t have the answers but all I can say is that I’ve taken some professional advice recently and have decided to give him an ultimatum of rehab, counselling and stay living at home, or move out. He has 2 weeks to decide.

Our family life has been torn apart at various times, he has been verbally and physically abusive, then the next day he is absolutely lovely and apologetic with promises to never behave that way again. But then the cycle starts all over again. It feels like abuse. We cannot take it any more and for our own sanity we have had to say ‘no more’’.

(We have of course tried everything to help him with his mental health issues and addictions but he has refused the most recent offers of help, so we are left in a position with very little choice.)

It may sound cruel to be kind and maybe he will sink further before he starts to recover, but until he recognises the fact that he needs help we are just going to continue in this terrible cycle, so something has to change

I’ll let you know how it goes, as I say I don’t have all the answers but this is what we’re trying at the moment.

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