Hi,
I’m sorry that you are having so much to cope with right now, your son’s addiction as well as your husband’s heart operation. It must feel very tough but please don’t blame yourself for not knowing about your son. We’ve all been there! At least he is seeing a counsellor and hopefully that will help him.
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We offer help to people coping with the addictions of a close family member. We have trained people who you could talk with. They are very experienced and would understand what you are going through, and would offer advice and help. If you contact us we would put you in touch with one of them.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck with everything.