Hi Egg04
I found out about my husband’s habit 6 years ago. He’d already been using for around 18 months at that stage. Fast forward through 4.5 years of what I thought was recovery and he had a major relapse. I uncovered many thousands of hidden debt. Then earlier this year, unpaid taxes (he’s self employed) – a large sum which may bankrupt him.
I’m ending my marriage now though I love him and want to believe he can turn his life around.
I can’t believe what devastation this addiction has wreaked upon us. And most of the time hidden from me. I would think carefully about staying with him if I’m honest. You will never know when he is telling you the truth and disaster is always lurking. You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it and you definitely can’t cure it. Only he can do that and it may take years.
Best of luck xx