I’m the same. Happily married fourteen years.
‘Husband’ sniffed coke recreationally few times a year. Then March last year he started to sniff regularly and drinking excessively due to stress over an upcoming court case.
Now he’s in prison, he has left me in debt as I have now found out he wasn’t going to work regularly. The lies they tell. He is self employed and I have a massive tax bill and credit card bills to pay.
I’m at my wits end.