Hiya karen hope your ok… im in the same situation as your husband. But i am doing my best to quit coke. I lapse once a month roughly give or take. I did 2 month at the start of the year and lapsed. Which i was gutted about. I cant stand the stuff. I wish i never even tried it. My spending on it was no were near what your husband spends but i am still an addict.
Do you not think he might of been taking it longer than just before xmas??
Going back to the cheating its very hard to get over and you probably never will. My gf cheated on me with a friend. It was crafty how it happend. But being stupid, i went and got her back. It made our lifes hell for years. But me personally as its been 7 years now. You do get over it or should i say.. it goes away and you dont think about it. Time is a great healer, and i am not defending your husband here.. im saying it from my point of view when i was cheated on. But everyone is different.
But if like you say you want to stay with and he is a good man and he is staying clean. Just ride the storm for abit. It is hard. Plus cocaine does that to a lot of people, i hear it alot on here and other places.. people get an escort. He wouldnt dream of doing it clean. Its just a horrible drug. Just be firm with him regarding coke, and make sure he doesnt drink alcohol or associate with anyone with coke. Ive took up reading to distract me and another 4 books have come through my door today to keep me occupied. Lol.
Feel free to ask me anything and good luck.