Hi Twinny,
I feel for you having to deal with such a horrible and difficult situation. If you would like some support for yourself please contact is at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that offers support for people in your situation. I you contact us one of our experience dand trained people would talk with you and may be able to help you find the way forward.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck