Hi Sam,
Do you have boyfriend on the side? If so, that would be a great distraction from his mess. It seems he is gas lighting you to keep you in a constant state of anxiety and confusion to undermine your sanity. My ex was like that, I thought i was freaking crazy. I don’t know if this will help but I tried to do 4 things in mind while he ranted and raved about stuff. 1. I’d just stop and start to breath real slowly and I would just look and listen to him. Just taking it all in. 2. I’d try to grab little pieces of what he as jabbering about and i would just nod. 3. I’d be thinking, with no expression on my face, God he looks like (fill in the blank with something funny to me or you in this case) and I’d leave the room or turn over after he finished ranting 4. I’d try my hardest because he would often try to make me feel bad about myself, I’d think of one thing that would make me happy or has made me happy that didn’t concern him in any way. I don’t know if this will help but just stopping and staring real quietly at a man causes them to feel inadequate for some reason. My ex would say that i could call my boyfriend, blah, blah, blah and I was like if I had one i wouldn’t be here with you joker. LOL. i don’t know if those steps will help, i’m just speaking from my own experience but I hope you make a least a few minutes everyday to just sit and breath.
Air hug – XXX