Hello,
I’ve been in a similar situation around a year ago….my life crumbled in the blink of an eye. I got to the point where I simply couldn’t cope anymore after weeks & weeks of ‘managing’ through life. I stressed that if he didn’t get the help he needed then I would be leaving him. Luckily he got the help he needed and we are still meeting up.
It’s a horrible position that you’re in as you love & hate the person at the same time. Try sitting him down & see if he actually wants help, there may be local programmes he can join. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but honestly it does get easier. I felt so alone at the time but always remember you aren’t & there’s always support.
Here if you need to talk, take care! X