I’ve been reading through a lot of other people’s posts. Seem to be a hell of a lot of posts by the people living with a coke addict. Its a scary thing, and it seems to be almost as big as smack was in the 90s. But it’s more dangerous, cos.no one had a cheeky hit of smack in the pub toilet and still had a banging night out. Come sneaks up on you. It took 20 years to.get hold of me.
But I have some advice for everyone living with an addict.
First of all. You have to decide whether you are going to see it through or not, From the beginning. The drama of you leaving in the middle means you might as well not have bothered in the first place.
Second of all, I can’t stress this enough, they may stop, and they may be doing really well, but there is still a good chance they will wobble. DONT MAKE THEM FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. Think of coke as beer. If someone is an alcoholic, and one night at a party, they have a few beers. You wouldn’t jump.on them and go mental, you’d probably ask them how they feel about it and tell them, it’s ok, it’s only one night, let’s just keep going.
Come is the same times 10.
If you want the old them back. You need to support them, not attack them, and they need to feel.comfortable enough to tell.you everything.
Also. Understand, that months down the line, they are still addicts. 5 months after being clean, my wife put 20k into my account because “she didn’t trust herself not to spend it” I tried to tell.her I didn’t want it, but I was too scared to tell her it was because I was scared I’d spend it on coke.
What I’m trying to say, is it will only work if you do it together, trust me, he is going through worse then hell, If it wasn’t for my kids, I’d be down there already and seriously relieved that I wasn’t living this torture any more.
Work together and use your brain, you can probably trust him with anything, except, you will never again be able to trust him with drugs and money. You need to come to terms with that.