Hi Bump22,
I am sorry, I missed this message when it came through.
I hope that your son’s assessment went well, it sounds like a great opportunity if he will go for it. I know what you mean about them just being left as a shell. I looked into my son’s eyes before he went off and they were so dark and full of anger and despair. I don’t know where my son spent last night, but I got a message at 2.30 to say he would be back today, but I think that is unlikely somehow. He doesn’t really like my partner and blames the relationship for all of this. I suppose in the back of my mind I worry that if I was on my own with him, things may have been different, as he is different when its just the 2 of us. He also has no relationship with his dad. He and I split when my son was about 23.
Its hard to see a way forward.