My husband is my sons father we are still together but we Do clutch at straws to find a Possible reason for their behaviour , and dependency’s on drugs /booze . Throughout the years I have thought of many reasons , is he gay and not able to come out/ was he been sexually abused as a youngster/ is it me did he think I did something really terrible . My hubby and I had an abortion before he was born as I wasn’t married – did my mum ever tell him ? It’s possible .
Is he Blotting out some dreadful thing from his past / I think the truth is some people are more prone to have addictive personalities and can’t say no . Then they get into a spiral of self hate and cravings so they take more to dull the pain.