Hi Bump, I’m really sorry to hear that your son is struggling at the moment. I can totally relate to how you are feeling, I don’t think there is anything harder than watching our children messing up their lives like this. It’s so easy to say but try and focus on the family members that you have at home. I really believe your son will come around. He’s shown that he can stop if he wants to. Looking back over the last few years with my son, I realise now that I was wasting my time until he was ready to hand over his bank card and seek real help. It’s hard but try and keep in mind that at the moment his behaviour is the fallout from addiction and not who he really is. He’s not a bad person, he’s just firmly in the grip of what really is a mental health condition and only he can fight it. You have to protect yourself so that you can help when it’s going to make a difference. Have you ever spoken to Drugfam? They have people that you can talk to, they are volunteers, the majority of them have been where you are now. I found them really helpful when I first found out about my son’s drug problem and also a few months ago when he relapsed. You will get through this but please get all of the help you can. You sound like a brilliant mum and underneath all of your son’s anger, I’m sure he knows this xxx
