Hi
I’m in the same situation as you with our 21 year old son we have put up with it for over 2 years now. He ran up huge amounts of debt from gambling to pay off the dealers through credit cards, loans and overdrafts. My husband and I have paid them off numerous times with promises he will never do it again but the same thing happens. 3 weeks ago after lots of threats we told him to leave after blowing his wages on cocaine, waking up Monday morning with no petrol etc to get to work. He left and went to a friends house who also does cocaine, we have not heard from him since. My son has threatened suicide usually on the come down from the coke realising he has blown a lot of money. My husband and I are worried sick that dealers will come after him as he owes them a lot of money, but this was the final straw we are hoping and praying that he sees sense and seeks help before it’s too late, only he can do this. They will just lying to feed their habit and you will be forever bailing them out.
It’s so hard as we love them so much, I totally understand what you are going through, it’s heartbreaking.
Take care
S x