Hi Everyone,
Sorry to hear that you are not well Bump and Lindyloo, please take care and look after yourselves.
My Son has been struggling for the last couple of months, but all down to him putting himself in situations that don’t suit him. He started seeing this woman, which is fine until I found out that she has her own problems. He started missing work, one day a week and sometimes 2 days, and I could see a pattern forming. If he stayed over at hers, he probably wouldn’t go to work the next day and not come home till later in that day when I got home from work, and he told me that he had a drink, I asked him how many, he said 4 cans, so you can double that and say 8. This went on for a few weeks, not drinking at home, because I won’t allow it, and he has his daughter in the week and every other weekend. His mood changed, and was causing arguments. He has not resorted back to cocaine thankfully, but the other night he was particularly vile, so I’m afraid I lost it big time, it takes me a lot to lose my temper, but quite frankly I had had enough, I told him not to come home, he could collect his clothes and be done with it. I have never told him this before, and I think it shocked him. Sometimes I think this is what they need, they really don’t realise how we have to live and quite honestly it gets very wearing. Obviously we will always love them, but sometimes it’s good just to take a step back and think of ourselves for a change.
The last two days he has been a different person, and chatted and admitted that he knows that if he continues to see this woman that he will end up in the same place as he was this time last year.
I take each day as it comes. He is on medication for his Mental Health, and knows that to go forward on the right path it has to be total abstinence from alcohol.
Think of you all often, thank god I found Adfam.
Take care and keep in touch.
Lindyloo, your Son is doing amazing, long may it continue ????
Dx