Hi Debc
Thanks for your best wishes, Covid has a lot to answer for!
I’m sorry to hear that your son has slipped off the wagon a bit. I don’t doubt for a second that its the gf that’s triggered him, especially if she has her own issues.
The first time my son relapsed was after being 3 months clean, he let his totally-wrong-for-him ex gf into his life. He finally saw that she was dragging him down with her (he thought he was helping her).
He returned to the fellowship for a bit, relapses a couple of times, no cocaine just booze. Finally returned seriously to AA and CA again. To date he’s finished the steps, helping others now.
Complete abstinence from alcohol and people who could trigger him.
And a strong determination to get clean too i guess.
I want you know that it IS possible, I know he can slip, but for the moment I’m just thankful.
I think you were right to have it out with him, must’ve been hard for you. But like you said, it was maybe the shake he needed!
Stay strong, keep the faith
Always here for you and the other girls.
Lxx