Hi jtekg4…..so sorry for your loss….truly awful….I feel heartbroken for you and your family.
My wife is sadly a functioning alcoholic. I’ve tried for years to get her to go to rehab but she won’t go.
Getting to the stage where I’ve become the ‘target’ now. Everything I do or say makes her angry and therefore into a binge cycle….I feel your pain and fear I will end up in your position.
However, neither should you or are you responsible for someone else’s addiction….so guilt isn’t a factor….do what you’re so clearly winning at….continue to be a mother….you’ll get through it.