So sorry Jem that you have this stress. Does he get packages delivered? Could he be getting them sent to the house?
Are you able to speak to him about it, ? I know my son hits the roof whenever I speak to him but if you can ask him? If he denies it ask wld he mind you drug testing him, if he has nothing to hide then hopefully he wld agree and u can know it’s not drugs that is the problem. Also maybe if its def not drugs cld you speak to the family gp as it looks like there is a mental health issue here. Some drs are better than others I know. Explain hes not eating not co.ing out room etc ..one wld hope they take it seriously.
Also can u sneak in his room at any point and check for any drugs paraphanalia hidden?
Such a worry for you.
Not sure if i wrote on here about my son ..so much has happened but he got badly beaten up and hospitalised. Now has metal plates in his mouth.the hospital wanted him discharged to us so I made a point of saying he cldnt come here unless there was mental health and support in place. On discharge the home treatment mental health team visited and said they beleive he has a personality disorder but until hes clean of drink and drugs cannot do anything anyway. They then discharged him but at least I have some sort of diagnosis. Also he has got a short term place at a homeless hostel he has strict rules and is breathalyzed everytime he enters the property and drug tested twice a week. If he fails hes out. He also has an outreach worker and has got the local drug and alcohol team who did used to engage with back in touch so I hope he engages with them. This place is a pathway to a organisation that helps young people with various issues where if he passes a period of sobriety etc will get a residential place. Its not rehab but very close. I’m hoping he will agree to it as he will have to agree to not leave once hes there and have no contact with friends. Anyway after leaving me yesterday he had done 10 days without drink and drugs after a week in hospital. I just hope that he can go in the right direction. Been a stressful 10 days but my cbt through the dr is helping.
I think of everyone on here all the time and really hope and pray that our loved ones come through this awful time. But look after yourselves most importantly. X