Hi all,
Hope everyone is ok, I think about everyone often and do read everything on the thread, sometimes I can’t bring myself to join in because I can’t get my head around what we all have to go through, hope that makes sense.
Lindyloo I hope your Son is still doing well, you and he should be very proud.
Bump, sorry to read about your Son being in hospital, I hope he is continuing to improve and engaging with the new hostel.
Jem, I also have a Son with a very messy room, and sometimes I can’t stand it any longer and cave in and clean it. I agree with Jenny and try and get him to come out of his room more often.
My Son is very up and down, I think his Mental Health is possibly worse that I thought, he does take medication. He has got himself involved with another woman, who also likes a drink, which as you can imagine is not a good combination, and I know he has had a drink when he has been with her. The trouble is he stays over some nights and then I have had him not going to work, which really makes me angry, then we fall out, and then everything is my fault yet again, it’s like a viscous circle, and I am getting very tired of it. He says he has not had cocaine, which I have seen no signs of. When he was using before, I used to find the little plastic bags that it comes in and other things, I haven’t seen any of this.
Do I take a step back and just let him get on with it? Do I ask him to leave? I do not allow him to drink in my house, and won’t. For the last 5 weeks he has gone to work every day, so I suppose he has been making an effort.
Just putting this down has helped and i know it’s not as bad as some people’s problems, but I could never go back to what it was.
Thinking of you all, take care.
Dx