Hello 68862, it’s such a difficult decision over rent, and knowing how much worse things can get if your son is homeless. Is there an opportunity to try and take control of his money as it comes in. I have a bit of an agreement with my son at the moment that if he wants help then I control his money. It’s not perfect and does go wrong but it has helped quite a bit. When he gets paid he transfers the bulk of it to me and I transfer back in smaller amounts. My son made a comment a while ago about a friend of his ‘if he’s not prepared to hand over his money he’s not serious or ready to be helped.’ I guess the problem is that even if they aren’t ready you still want them to have a roof over their head, so this might be completely unworkable or something you’ve tried before. I really feel for you with this, it’s a long drawn out agony, that drains you mentally and financially.
Lindyloo I hope that things are okay with your son. Thank you for your kind words, I’m trying to learn to appreciate small positives and not to focus on the bad stuff – very hard though.
I hope everyone has a good day with no drama.