Hi all- 68862 it’s such a hard thing to do when faced with icing me them money yet again. You’re always hoping that this take they’ll take the help and finally do something with it. I’m sure some do. With my son, I’ve had to say no for a long time now. He’s a taker.
I just texted him yesterday to see how he’s doing since going to the hospital to detox. He said he’s depressed which happens. I asked him if he got in touch with a therapist and he says he tried. Who knows? He said his problem right now is money. He was trying to get his doctorate a few years back and messed that up with his drinking. Now he’s trying to get back in the program so he can get student loans again. That’s how he’s been living all these years. He’s a career student. He has more student debt than he can even repay in his lifetime. Right now the university is saying no and he’s freaking out. In the this last relapse he actually asked me to support him financially so he could finish his degree which he hasn’t even been working on these last few years! He said, “Aren’t you proud of me and don’t you want me to finish?” Do you see the manipulation? Well I said no. I told him, you’re 39 years old and you need to get a job. I work for my money and you need to also. You’re not a kid. Well it escalated and he hung up on me.
It’s worrisome to me that his focus is more on getting loans than the hard work of sobriety. He usually does this when he gets sober and then he sees how bad his life is, how much he’s hurt his loved ones, and then the guilt and anxiety get too much and well, we know how what happens then. I pray he’ll dig deep and find the strength. I know it’s in there, but he’s developed such a pattern. He’s a loving person as I’m certain all of our sons are, I just haven’t seen that in him for a long while. I’m sorry I’ve been a bit negative. He’s running out of money and that means there’s going to be problems.
Hugs to all!!! ♥️♥️♥️