MrsB247- you’re not crazy. It’s the addiction that is crazy. Your loved one tells you they’re fine, and you know in your head that it’s not true, but your heart tries to believe them because it makes you feel better in the moment. They tell you it’s no big deal, and that you’re overreacting and inside you pray that are, but you know that you’re not overreacting- you’re scared.
At least it was for me. I did this for many years, thinking it was just a phase, or youthful partying, or that it was because of the stress in his life. His sisters tried to tell me years ago and I thought they were being too hard on him and they were overreacting! The truth is, for me this has been a journey of trying to accept what I know to be true, that my son is an addicted alcoholic. I have had to accept it these last few years because they’ve been so bad, and still nothing different for him but the same pattern. And more things he’s losing like his health, his future career and most shockingly, his family which I would never, ever have thought possible.
Hang in there as best as you can. It helps if you and your husband can mostly be aligned in the things you do. Many marriages are torn apart from this, and you need each other.
Love to you ❤